Balancing your feminine and masculine energy in love – an article for the woman who wants to restore the feminine-masculine polarity in her romantic life.
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Let’s take a look at this little chat between your inner feminine and masculine energy before an evening date.
Your Inner Feminine (IF): I had such a fruitful day at work today, thank you for leading the way for us.
Your Inner Masculine (IM): Of course, I am here for us always. So…are you ready for your date?
IF: Absolutely!
IM: Aw..I’m so excited for you!
IF: And me, I am so grateful for you! Thank you for driving us till here!
IM: Anything for your beauty! Oh..here comes your date. It’s time for me to go now. You shine your light!
So as you just witnessed here, our masculine energy is our action oriented energy- the one that’s about leading, achieving, conquering, making things happen. In short, it’s our ‘doing’ energy.
And our feminine is our feeling-oriented energy- the one that’s about surrendering, receiving, responding, being empathetic, staying connected to our sensations. In short, it’s our ‘being’ energy.
Now, when you’re on your dates or in presence of your romantic partner, the key to building polarity in your interactions/ relationship is knowing when and how to melt your masculine energetic shield and simply be, simply soften in your feminine energy.
The key question to explore here is- if both our feminine and masculine energies inherently present in us, why does the above not come to us instinctively?
Why do we struggle to soften in our feminine energy when we are around an embodied masculine man? Especially since we organically identify on the more feminine end of nature’s energy spectrum?
Let’s explore our answers through these two powerful reasons:
Reason 1: Our hyper-masculine conditioning
We are doers by our conditioning. While living in this hyper- masculine world that values momentum, achievement and that hustle-oriented attitude more than anything else, we have been trained to follow this masculine way of doing life.
It is natural then, that we women too despite being abundantly endowed with our own feminine gifts, sign up to the masculine art of living.
Like, going after what we want, working hard for our goals, trying to win at almost all walks of our life. No matter what the cost.
What no one tells us though is that this go-go, achievement oriented way of doing life, is not the way we were designed to do romantic relationships.
What no one teaches us is the art of our feminine embodiment in life and in love. What no one tells us about is the power of our innate feminine magnetism.
Unless it’s something we see role-modelled to us by the women in our homes, in our social circles, this art remains unknown to us. Until we reach a point where our masculine ways of loving & doing romantic relationships stop yielding any results!
As a result of which, we find ourselves
- attracting the most disembodied masculine men,
- repelling the embodied ones,
- repeatedly failing to have the love & commitment our heart truly yearns for.
It is then we start to wonder if there’s something wrong with us. That whether we are not worthy of love, drowning ourselves in a millions of doubts & fears about our enough-ness.
The truth all this while being- there is nothing wrong with us. There never was.
We didn’t learn in our schools the skills we needed to do life as a woman who is connected with her feminine essence and power.
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Growing up, our mentors didn’t necessarily guide us to acknowledge & celebrate our powerful feminine gifts. We weren’t taught that in order to get equally successful in love, we need to do less & start being more (the core quality of our feminine essence).
And guess what, our inner masculine isn’t our foe. It’s a powerful energy after all. If it wasn’t for this action-oriented energy in us, we wouldn’t be able to even get out of the bed in the morning!
Of course, you need this energy to do what needs to be done in order to fulfil our aspirations, desires, goals and dreams. We all do, regardless of our energetic orientation.
However, this energy isn’t our best friend when it comes to our love life. Especially if we are dating or are already in a relationship with a man who is an embodied masculine man.
Which brings me to the second reason as to why we struggle with balancing our feminine and masculine energy in our love life.
Reason 2. The lack of understanding about romantic polarity
If you have been following my work, you’d know I’m a science nerd. So let me explain this point to you via some powerful logic.
We cannot force a magnet to be attracted to another piece of magnet.
Simply because they are made up of the same energies.
But when we place it close to a metal, the force of attraction is so strong that it gets pulled towards the metal almost effortlessly.
Conclusion?
Similar energies repel. Opposite energies attract.
An embodied man already has a lot of masculine energy in him. He wants to expend this energy, he is always waiting for a chance to put this energy into use.
In the practical world, when he comes across a woman, an individual who is bringing that same energy in their interactions, what happens as a result?
He feels repelled.
He is not able to find the space to use his masculine energy.
He wants to give to her, but she is not able to receive from him and is only concerned about giving him back.
He desires to be the leader in the relationship but she wants to lead too. (Imagine two people pulling the rope in opposite directions)
He really wants to feel attracted to this woman who he finds really gorgeous, but he cannot do anything about it!
Just as a magnet cannot force itself to be attracted to another magnet, no matter how beautiful magnet that is.
Now imagine when he comes across a woman rooted in her sensual, soft, feeling, receiving feminine energy.
He gives to her, she joyfully receives.
He wants to leads the relationship, she is happy to relax back and let him do the work.
He pursues her, she enjoys the pursuit without guilt/ shame.
The attraction is inevitable.
He can’t help it, he can’t resist it.
Just how even if a magnet doesn’t want to be attracted to the metal, it cannot help it.
It’s the powerful law of polarity in action.
I share about this process in my book Becoming a Goddess in love in so much depth because this knowledge is a life saver for romantic relationships, for your dating interactions and everything that has to do with attraction between two individuals who are of polar opposite energies- which in this case is you and your man/ your dates.
This book will deeply benefit you if you’re desiring to learn the skills of feminine embodiment in love and apply the laws of romantic polarity (also known as feminine-masculine polarity) in your love life.
If you’re desiring to learn the art of balancing your inner feminine and masculine energies in love, here’s where you can explore the contents of this offering.
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