What weakens the polarity in romantic relationships – an article for the woman who wants to re-activate the attraction in her love life.
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Every once in a while, I think of my past dis-embodied relationships and the woman I used to be then.
As a hyper-masculine, disconnected woman, the only way I knew to operate was to lead my romantic relationships, playing Mommy to my ex-partners, providing for them, rescuing them from their money problems and what not.
I was so deeply drowning in that way of living with no hope of a life beyond that reality.
In retrospect, it feels like the blessing of a karmic gift that I experienced everything I went through in those years. Towards the end of which, in my 3D reality, my body came to my rescue.
After landing in the hospital for an emergency surgery amidst my ‘busy’ life of over-working, I was forced to slow down. As I slowed down physically, my inner world started slowing down as well, helping me connect with my heart, my feelings, my desires, my essence.
Opening my soul’s eyes to the mess I had got myself in.
The rest, as they say, is history.
Three months later, I had walked away from the longest adult relationship of my life only to fall so deeply in love with myself. And then slowly and gradually cultivate the feminine art of receiving in my being, creating an infinitely large space within me to receive from men, and from the rest of the world.
In less than a year, I had gone from being a depleted woman to a deeply nourished woman who felt comfortable :
..allowing the men in her dating circle to travel >100kms to pick her for their date and drop her back home safely.
..receiving acts of service from those men without feeling the slightest need to return those loving gestures
..pacing out her suitors to honour her preferences and standards around intimacy and commitment.
If you asked me today, what was the most pivotal aspect of my healing, I’d tell you- it was healing the shadow side of my Mother archetype and reconnecting with my inner magnetic woman.
As the eldest of my siblings, I had my giver and doer masculine energy activated in me from an early age. But meeting wounded masculine/unawakened men in the early years of my young adult life drew that energy out of me in unhealthy proportions.
I was hopelessly trapped in the cycles of over-giving and then feeling resentful, over-doing and then feeling bitter to my core.
What weakens the polarity in our romantic relationships
When you keep pouring from a cup for years without filling it back, it runs dry to an extent that you can see the marks of dried out tea at its bottom. That cup desperately needs to be washed and cleaned inside out, and refilled again.
When our beautiful (feminine) value of nurturing and caring for others is practiced from an under-resourced and under-supported state of being (especially in the area of our romantic relationships), it can lead to SO much self-harm.
Not only does it end up depleting us but also leads to extinguishing any possibility of romantic polarity that could have been established in that relationship.
A man who may have taken on his embodied role of leading, providing, initiating, taking care of you and your relationship when treated like a toddler, mothered and smothered by his woman starts behaving like one.
And then we are left wondering why does this man never lead.
We expect the man to be the leader in our relationship but when he does, the wounded side of our Mother feminine archetype is standing over his head with a list of ways he could have done it better.
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This shadow side of our Mother archetype isn’t just limited to when we are in partnered dynamics.
If it’s part of our deeper conditioning, it can show up in how we date as well.
~ Meeting a date halfway to make it easier and more convenient for him..
~ Offering to pay the check when you’re meeting a man who asked you out on a romantic date..
And at a deeper level,
~ Leaning forward in your energy by thinking of a future with a man without he having mentioned about it ever!
~ Being in the energetic state of leading the dating process forward, thinking of ways to “make things happen” in that courting process.
Everything around us is energy. And all of us feel it.
Men, the embodied ones in particular, feel the overpowering impact of your masculine leading energy and their inherent masculine nature feels repelled by your presence no matter how attractive they may find you at the physical level.
Romantic polarity, that is the force of attraction between a masculine-essenced man and a feminine-essenced woman, keeps weakening with each instance of the two people abandoning their core energetic expression.
So how do we turn this around?
As a feminine-essenced woman, you can take responsibility of your part..
..by learning + embodying the laws of romantic polarity in your love life,
..by rewiring your energetic orientation in alignment with these laws.
So that your magnetism stops being another thing that you need to do to fully enjoy your romantic life. And starts being the way you are, the way you live, smile, go about your days, in and out of your realtionship.
In the years preceding my journey of feminine embodiment, all that I thought I knew about feminine energetics in romance fell short in front of the actual shifts that started taking place in my dating life once I started embodying these laws at all five dimensions of my body.
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If you’d like to activate the polarity in your romantic relationship, here’s where you can learn more about this course.
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