Healing your relationship with men and money ~ an article for the feminine-essenced woman who wants to learn how to identify and tend to any possible wounding she may have around receiving from men, especially when it comes to money.

I truly believe that no matter how deeply a woman has been conditioned by her hyper-masculine environments, there is a part of her that is still attuned to her natural feminine design. 

The part of her that lets her know when something doesn’t feel good to her. 

The part of her that instantly signals to her when she is over giving, over working or over functioning for that what her heart desires. 

This inner guiding voice becomes even more louder in the space of love & romance because this is one area of her life where she truly thrives when she can receive from a masculine partner who cherishes, adores, respects and loves her. 

This is why when she is operating in overdrive mode always chasing, always leading, initiating and moving her romantic relationships forward, she is met with disappointment and dissatisfaction that she can’t really explain but feels deeply in her heart. 

In contrast to this, something beautifully shifts within her when she allows herself to receive from men especially in the space of love and romance.

She melts like ice, her heart opens like a blooming flower, the honey of her inner pleasure starts flowing in her body.

Her nervous system starts healing as she returns to her natural feminine state of feeling and receiving the care, love, respect, and more gestures of sincere affection and devotion that are being poured into her.

There is another layer to this that gets exposed for her own good. How deeply she can receive from men also has a lot to do with how she relates with money.

Because no matter what a man does for her, in one way or the other, it will involve some form of financial investment. 

And so at a root level, if she hasn’t yet healed her worthiness for money and the goodness it can bring to her life, she will find it really hard to receive from men as well. 

I can share an example from my past where I had a very tender experience of being extracted for my financial resources for quite a few years in a relationship. A time that also shook my entire energetic foundation with money despite coming from a emotionally secure upbringing around money.

After I spent the next few months rebuilding this relationship, the most natural next step for me was to tend to the wounding that made it difficult for me to trust and receive from men, especially when it came to money. 

As a newly single woman in the modern dating world, I’d notice how after every date my natural orientation would be to reach for the check. 

I was so used to paying not just for me but for another person in my life that sometimes even forcibly, I’d cover my share when the man in front was so eager to take care of it all.

I still send blessings to that one man who few months into my dating life during one of our dinners, looked into my eyes and said to me, “I don’t like it so much when you do all the work of planning our dates. I want to please you, not the other way round. Can you let me do that?”

An interaction that changed everything. It all felt like a puzzle at first. But with time, I started noticing how happy it made embodied masculine men to take care of me through their money. And more importantly, I observed how good it felt to my inner system to be the one receiving these simple gestures of love, affection and adoration. 

(this was a realisation that also made me forgive the dis-embodied men in my past for their shortcomings because I found it so easy to accept that just as I had so many shields placed on my heart that made it hard for me to receive, these men too were possibly not connected with their masculine essence that inspired them to give to the women in their life.)

In this process of healing my relationship with men and money, I eventually came to be in right receivership with both of these masculine energy forms. And now find myself effortlessly trusting them to take care of me, come what may. 

A key learning from these experiences that I share in my money magnetism course is that any given day, both men and money love us. 

It is in their inherent (masculine) nature to care for us feminine-essenced women, to provide for us, to protect us, to facilitate the fulfilment of both our needs and our desires. 

The innate design of their masculine nature is to pour into us, to be in service to us, to nourish our lives inside out.

But because we live in such a hyper-masculine world, receiving from men, especially if that’s money, is looked down upon, is often frowned upon. 

This, as a result, either turns us into dis-embodied feminists or leaves us feeling confused around how to respond to the generosity of men. 

In my 1-1 work of supporting women with their feminine softening in love, I have witnessed that as independent high-achieving women, we usually find ourselves oscillating between two feelings state when it comes to receiving from men. 

One, where we feel that we are capable enough to provide for ourselves and don’t need anything from men (a classic example of hyper-independence caused by our over-masculinised conditioning).

And second, where we feel that by accepting money from men in form of paid bills, material gifts or experiences, we owe them something in return, intimacy more specifically, even when we are not ready for it. 

When the truth here is, no embodied masculine man with a secure relationship with money would think or expect either of the above from a woman he is investing in, emotionally, energetically and financially. 

Something our hyper-masculine conditioning keeps women uninformed about is that any man who is drawn to a woman he sincerely wants to build a future with, will give to her from a place of sincere care, respect and affection (and love, as the relationship deepens).

This also means that in instances when he doesn’t have oodles of money to shower her with things or gestures involving money, he will find creative ways to make her feel valued and cared for. 

Just as feminine-attuned women feel the most fulfilled when receiving with joy, warmth and affection (not shame or guilt), men love to give to women (and to their own friends and family) because it makes them feel embodied and fulfilled in their masculine-providing nature.

Money just happens to be one of the many mediums they can express their generous, protective, providing instincts in their relationships with people they value. 

The only kind of men who match the (above mentioned) fearful states of feeling are the ones who are carrying their own fears around money, and hence expect women to go 50-50 in romance, for instance. (I explain more about these dynamics in the Men and Money module of my money magnetism course.) 

a self-reflection exercise 

I invite you to reflect if you resonate with any of the below –

If you’re single, 

• you start feeling uncomfortable as the date is ending and it’s time for the bill to arrive. 
• you stay away from the subject of money in your discussions with your suitors, more so, if the man you’re dating comes with debt or earns less than you. 
• when the man covers the bills on your dates, plans and pays for everything in the dating process, you either feel guilty or feel like you owe him something in return. 

And if you’re in a committed partnership, 

• you often feel triggered by your partner’s spending habits. 
• you steer clear of the subject of money fearing it might disturb the peace of your relationship. 
• the fear of you out-earning your partner and he possibly exploiting you for your wealth looms in the shadows.

If you relate to any of these scenarios, then instead of labelling this as something wrong with you, I invite you to consider the possibility that this might neither be about you or men, and is more often that not the result of our wounded-masculine conditioning, the kind that is rooted in scarcity. 

I can speak from my experience of working with women in this area that no matter what your history with men and money has been, once you start repairing your relationship with your inner worthiness around receiving, you’ll find yourself naturally peeling back the layers of this conditioning and entering into a secure and enriching relationship with both money and men. 

You will start feeling safe in communicating your preferences and non-negotiables around money to the men in your life.

Whether you’re single & dating or are in a long-term partnership, you will be able to have realistic conversations with men about money without dimming your inherent magnetism. 

Having worked so closely with women witnessing them relish the fruits of reforming their relationship with both money and men, I can tell you that all of the above is possible, if that’s what you heart truly desires for your love life. 

With the right skills and an emotional state restored to safety, any feminine-hearted woman can feel secure, peaceful and empowered when it comes to her money conversations with men, without affecting the romantic attraction in her relationship. This is something I cover in a lot of depth in Module 7 of my money magnetism course.

Through the lessons shared in this course, you can expect to ~ 

• identify and tend to any possible wounding you may have around receiving from men, especially when it comes to money, and
• heal your relationship with money so you can cultivate the confidence to navigate money conversations with the people (especially men) in your world, without the previously weighing feelings of fear, shame and guilt. 

If you get to learn from this offering, I’d love to hear about the one big transformation your healed relationship with money has brought about in your love life. 

Navdeep 💗

P.S. looking for more articles on money magnetism? continue reading here.