Embodying our feminine archetype of the sensual Lover, an article for the woman who wants to reconnect with the power of her sensuality in love and in life.
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When I first discovered (non-sexual) pleasure in my body, I felt as though I had found the meaning to my life,
the meaning to my existence,
the meaning to my womanhood.
But often in those early instances, I used to feel a faint pull of my old hyper-masculine conditioning. After all, spending hours turned inwards to my pleasure wasn’t getting anything done.
I was not being ‘productive’ in my days, this practice of cultivating depths of my pleasure wasn’t something I could show to the world (and to myself) as my that day’s work. It felt completely irrational and illogical to the recovering workaholic in me.
And yet, something in me wanted to stay here, in my body, feeling that juicy, life-giving pleasure, marinating myself in it. So I continued to do that.
The self-critical voice diminished and died soon after and I went swimming in the deeper end of my sensual embodiment.
Surprisingly enough, it didn’t take long for this connection with myself to reflect in my connection with the world.
It deepened my receptivity when it came to my love life, where my moments of intimacy with the men in my dating circle became so much more than just kissing and fondling.
I could literally feel our sexual energies meeting each other without any form of sexual contact in picture.
Fast forward to today, living and showing up in my sensual connection so effortlessly invites the penetrative masculine energy of these men in my life further deepening our intimacy and polarity.
So here’s the thing, sweets.
We are living in a world where a woman’s connection with her sensuality (and in turn with her sexuality) is so manipulated, degraded, suppressed by our patriarchal society that we start seeing it as something dirty, sinful and disgraceful (the only exception being when it’s a man bringing pleasure to a woman).
This so sneakily diminishes our connection with our sacred feminine archetype of the sensual Lover that is the most easily identifiable archetype of an embodied feminine woman.
The slow, sensual, emotionally connected, magnetic, passionate, creative woman.
Considered as an embodiment of our sacred sensuality, we are embodying this archetype when we feel the most sensually alive, emotionally connected, deeply fulfilled, ravished by love and intimacy, and are in tune with our life force energy of creativity, inspiration and magnetism.
The magic of this archetype reflects in your most intimate relationships when it pulls a man and keeps him glued to you like a magnet.
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Your natural and juicy expansiveness creates the space for you to fully receive and feel ravished by everything this man does for you.
You stop measuring the magnitude of his offerings of love, intimacy, affection, attention, acts of service and start receiving them as they are, radiating your warmth, joy and pleasure as his return gift.
His masculine energy feels the pull of this magnetic, receiving, feminine energy of yours and wants to give you more, to keep pouring into the infinitely large reservoir of your being.
He lives every waking day of his life to fill that reservoir of your feminine essence.
It is this depth of polarity that keeps men devoted to their women no matter what seasons of life pass them.
It is this strength of attraction that makes a man go from being just a match to a smitten, committed, deeply devoted masculine partner.
Just like we women feel the most fulfilled when connected with our feminine essence, men too feel their lives fully actualised when they get to show up for you in their masculine essence.
And it all starts with you melting your hard, masculine armour and allowing yourself to connect with the most profound gift of your womanhood, your sensuality.
journey deeper
If you are looking for a self-paced resource to learn how to connect with your feminine essence of pleasure and sensuality,I invite you to explore Rise with the Feminine, my 7-step feminine energy activation program.
In modules 5 & 6 of this powerful offering, I show you how you can rise to your feminine power by somatically connecting with your sensual aliveness and healing your relationship with your sacred sexuality.
Here’s where you can learn more about this powerful program.
related reading
Our sensuality is our capacity to discover and connect with the aliveness, vitality and pleasure that’s pulsating through our body by using our five external and infinite internal senses. Read this article to learn 4 simple ways you can start reconnecting with your sensuality and aliveness in your day to day life.
The intuitive wisdom of our feminine nature, an article for the woman who wants to learn how to connect with her intuitive intelligence.
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In the current hyper-masculine world that we live in, one of the most underestimated powers of our femininity is our gift of intuition.
Commonly believed to be an element of woman’s inner power, the domain of intuition is simply the feminine– the feeling, sensing energy that connects us to the truth, to the ‘right’ answers to our questions.
After all, our intuitive wisdom is the language that the Divine essence (spiritual dimension) in our body uses to guide us towards our desires.
Lets’s go a little deeper to understand this.
The intuitive wisdom of our feminine nature
So, our body consists of 4 dimensions- physical, mental, emotional and energetic, that have an overarching fifth dimension- the spiritual, one that represents the essence of the Divine, the One that’s in each one of us.
Regardless of what area of our life we are calling a new desire in, it is imperative that we set clear intentions with regard to what we really want.
Because our fifth dimension, the essence of the Divine in us, uses these intentions as guideposts and accordingly communicates to us via our intuition whether we are on or off track on our journey towards our desired destination.
(For the sake of clarity, this destination can be a feeling, a vision, a 3D figure, person, situation, job or simply a state of being)
In fact, the Divine essence in us uses the help of the other four dimensions of our body to communicate its message to us in our 3D reality.
These intuitive knowings, cues, nudges can feel like they’re..
Physical- where we might feel them via the sensations in our body, a knot in our gut, a constriction in our solar plexus, heaviness in our heart, etc.
Emotional- where we might feel extremely sad or ecstatic during the occurrence of an event.
Mental- where we might be reminded of an idea or a thought of a similar situation from the past.
Energetic- where we might notice a shift (drop or rise) in our vibration, our aura, our energetic state.
Almost always, it is via the feel of it, the feel of a sensation, an emotion, a thought or an energetic vibration that our intuition is speaking to us.
The truth, as I always say in my work, is in the feel of it. The truth is in the feel of it.
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When something doesn’t feel right, it isn’t right. For you. At that moment.
Now, there is no rulebook of life that says that we have to listen to our intuition. It is entirely up to us whether we want to listen to this message or not.
There are countless times in our lives when we have ignored our intuition and gone ahead to do the exact opposite of what it has told us. Only to take a longer (and a messier) route to a point where we were left with no choice than to attend to this divine intervention.
Because here is the interesting thing.
Since we are not taught, trained, or educated to learn this language of the Divine, we grow up either totally oblivious of it or choose to stay ignorant of this superpower that we were born with.
Because of our lack of belief in our own power, we rely on external support systems like card readings, crystals, readings from psychics and what not to guide us on our path. (nothing wrong with them as long as we haven’t made them the ONLY source of divine guidance.)
Knowing about this superpower and choosing to not use it is almost like saying, “What I cannot see with my naked eyes, I won’t believe in”.
Just because we don’t witness this power in the obvious ways in our 3D reality, it is very easy for most of us to question its legitimacy and have a hard time trusting it.
Exactly what brings us to the question of how one can then use this invisible power of intuition to navigate life and its tricky situations.
journey deeper
Learning how to understand the language of our intuition is a skill, a very important one at that.
It lies at the heart of our feminine magnetism, playing a vital role in the process of manifestation of our heart’s deepest and wildest desires.
In Module 8 of my core feminine embodiment course, Your Magnetic Femininity, I share with you the skills to somatically read and interpret the language of your body’s cues and intuitive knowings, thus activating a very integral element of your feminine embodiment.
You can learn more about this deeply transformative offering here.
related reading
Some say feminine embodiment in a skill, others say it’s an art. To me, it feels like a journey within. A journey of reconnecting with the feminine design nature had gifted us women from the time we took birth earth-side. Read this article to learn what feminine embodiment really is and what it looks like in our love and work life.
5 signs you are embodying your feminine essence in your love life, an article for the woman who wants to learn the art of feminine embodiment in love.
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Contrary to a very popular belief system, our femininity goes far beyond our ‘feminine’ dresses, colours, appearances. It has everything to do with our energy of receptivity, sensitivity, sensuality, vulnerability and more.
Our feminine embodiment is the portal to our power. Power that’s rooted in our worthiness, embodied boundaries & embodied presence.
A woman connected to her feminine essence is (energetically) soft on the outside and strong on the inside. In the space of her love life, she brings her whole (healed) self and lets the man/men her witness her in her radiant femininity.
Embodying your feminine essence in your love life
Today, in this article, I want to share with you 5 signs that convey if you’re embodying your feminine essence in your love life.
Sign 1 ~ You have mastered the feminine art of receiving.
You have little or no trouble asking for support from your man/ the men you’re seeing.
You have healed your relationship with your inner masculine. As a result of which, you don’t see asking for help as a sign of weakness.
You know you can do it all by yourself and yet you’re open to receiving more ease and pleasure in your life that men bring to your life.
The more you can receive, the more inspired these (empowered masculine) men want you to pour into you, to give to you, to please you.
Sign 2 ~ You are rooted in your feminine energy of worthiness.
You can joyfully receive from men without feeling the urge to return their efforts and gestures.
You know you are inherently worthy of all the gifts, all the good things that life has to offer you. And that the love, affection and admiration of men/your man is a tiny beautiful part of that gift bundle.
When men try to serve you with their acts of service, you joyfully receive those gestures and exude your warmth and gratitude in return. You don’t feel the pressure to match their efforts to even out the relationship.
This activates the polarity between your feminine energy and the masculine energy of empowered masculine men.
Sign 3 ~ You effortlessly practice the feminine value of surrender.
You effortlessly trust and surrender in the unknown. You’re deeply rooted in your feminine value of divine surrendering.
When you’re single & dating, you allow yourself to flow through and enjoy the process of getting to know a man without worrying about the outcome of that dating association.
When you see that (embodied masculine) man taking the lead, you place the same trust in him and follow his lead.
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When in a committed partnership, you trust your partner to lead your relationship in the right direction.
In both of these scenarios, you trust that your intuition will guide you if that value of trust and surrender is dishonoured.
Sign 4 ~ You regularly use your feminine gift of intuition to make decisions in your love life.
You are able to use your intuition to make decisions in matters of the heart. This is a sign of your heightened sensitivity to your inner knowings and deep trust in your Divine inner guidance.
When something doesn’t feel right, you trust that inner voice and don’t do it. Your intuitive wisdom guides you in your day to day life to make the right decisions around saying yes to dates, saying yes to invitations, following the lead of a man/ men you’re dating and so on.
Sign 5 ~ You show up in your love life in both your feminine radiance & power.
You’re not afraid of expressing your vulnerability in your intimate interactions with men because it is supported by your embodied boundaries.
You know when to open your heart to men and how to protect yourself from getting hurt.
Your energy is open and inviting and guarded by your (highly empowered) energetic boundaries that lets men know that you are a no-nonsense woman indeed.
journey deeper
If you would like the support of a self-paced resource to learn the art of feminine embodiment in love, you may explore my powerful book Becoming a Goddess in love.
Consisting of 9 parts, this ebook will show you how to reclaim your feminine essence, radiance & power and use it all to revolutionise your love life. It will teach you the powerful skills of feminine embodiment in love and show you how to apply the laws of feminine-masculine polarity in your love life.
Here’s where you can learn more about its powerful contents.
related reading
Did you know that practising vulnerability in your love life is a skill, one that can be cultivated if you desire an emotionally rich romantic relationship in your life? Read this article where I share with you more on how you can add this skill in your emotional intelligence toolkit.
How to embody your energy of surrender in love, an article for the woman who wants to be ravished in love.
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Do you know what’s one of the biggest challenges we women face on our journey of feminine embodiment in love?
It’s the struggle of relaxing back in our feminine energy of surrender.
Add to that a deeper sense of scarcity fed to us by our culture that constantly reminds us “if you do not go after what you want, you’ll never have it!”
Now this control + outcome oriented masculine energy does practically help us in areas of our work or even in some areas of our love life where we need it to set up a lovely dating profile, respond to texts from the man/ men in our dating circle, etc. when we are single
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letting our inner masculine take care of our inner feminine when we are in a committed partnership.
But when we zoom out and look at our overall love life, we realise that there’s nothing’s more powerful than our feminine energy of surrender. We were gifted this energy from the time we took birth as a woman, after all!
Surrender in our love life looks like staying rooted in the truth that
~ we are born worthy of love,
~ a man who truly is interested/ invested in us will gladly make the efforts to win our heart,
~ our part in our love life is only our own inner work.
There is so much power, so much strength in just the value of our feminine surrender.
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Contrary to popular misconceptions, surrender isn’t about giving up.
It’s about giving over to something way more powerful than we can think or imagine to guide us in the direction of our desires. Trusting that this unknown power will take care of our desires without us pushing or chasing to make things happen in our life.
And this applies to our love life more than to anything else!
Let’s go a little deeper to understand this.
We know that our body has 5 dimensions.
The mental, the physical, the emotional, the energetic. All of which have an overarching dimension of the spiritual, that is the essence of the Divine, that’s present in each one of us.
Let’s understand what does surrender look like by considering this example first.
Think of how we are when we’re surrendered in our prayers. At our:
mental level, we’re not using our masculine energy of brainstorming or thinking of the answers we’re seeking in our prayers. We’re fully present in the moment without our mind wandering or wondering about what we need to do next to make things happen in that moment.
physical level, our body is relaxed, softened, calm, composed, willing to follow the lead of this masculine energy that is the Divine power we believe in.
emotional level, we’re deeply connected with our truest feelings, we’re aware of the emotions that are flowing through us.
energetic level, our faith is entrusted in the masculine energy source that’s the Divine, God, the Higher power we’re praying to. We’re in a state of receptivity, open to receiving our answers.
At no point, we doubt our worthiness to receive what we have just asked in our prayers. We’re not trying to prove ourselves worthy of our desires. We’re anchored in the belief that we’re good enough for what we have asked for in our prayers.
Now let’s apply this same dynamic to when we’re on a date or in presence of our masculine energy romantic partner.
Knowing that we’re around a masculine energy source that is this man, we can..
..be relaxed in our physical body,
..be fully present with our thoughts in that moment,
..stay fully connected to our heart,
..exuding an energy of openness and receptivity.
This is what being in our feminine energy of surrender looks like in our love life.
The more we practice connecting with our feminine essence of softness, flow, enough-ness and receptivity, the deeper our surrender grows in life and in love.
We feel safe with trusting the empowered masculine energy men in our life to lead the way for us and our love life.
Thus building on to the existing polarity between their masculine and our feminine energy.
Being able to practice surrender in love is such a powerful way to activate our feminine magnetism in our romantic relationships.
journey deeper
If you are desiring to learn the feminine art of surrender through a self-study resource, I invite you to explore my core feminine embodiment course, Your Magnetic Femininity.
In this deeply transforming offering, I show you how you can disrupt your hyper-masculine conditioning, reconnect with the full spectrum of your femininity and become a magnetic woman in life and in love.
If you’d like to learn more, here’s where you can explore its powerful curriculum.
related reading
A woman connected with her feminine essence is (energetically) soft on the outside and strong on the inside. In the space of her love life, she brings her whole (healed) self and lets the man/men her witness her in her radiant femininity. Read this article to learn the 5 signs that convey if you’re embodying your feminine essence in your love life.
7 ways to awaken the God in a man, an article for the woman who wants to awaken the Divine masculine in a man while embodying her Divine feminine.
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If you’ve been here in my community for a while, you’d know that when you’re on your path to becoming a Goddess in love, you learn how to awaken the God in a man as well.
When you are embodying your feminine energy, that is when you are simply being, flowing, surrendering, receiving, the men who are already in embodiment of their masculine energy instantly feel and notice that.
The ones who are just starting out, not so much.
After all, not all men in the world have the potential to become the God in love at the same time, right?
Some are already there, some have just started, some are not even aware of the divinity of their masculine essence.
You beautiful woman are here for the first kind. The ones who are already there. Looking for their Goddess in every woman they meet.
Seeking the Divine Feminine to come in Sacred Union with their Divine Masculine.
In the practical world, as a woman desiring meaningful love, your part is to simply show up in connection with your feminine essence and be the divinely magnetic woman you were born as. The rest simply follows.
In my lived experience, here are the 7 ways I have discovered an embodied woman has the power to awaken the God in a man.
She does so by:
1. Offering him the gift of his sacred space
A woman deeply connected with her feminine essence understands that both her partner and herself are two different individuals with their unique set of needs. To be able to meet their respective emotional needs and wants, they need to be there for themselves first.
In the practical sense, this looks like putting the me first, then the you and then the us.
She understands that two evolved humans cannot show up in a relationship as the best versions of themselves unless they have the space, capacity and intent to do their own inner work. And so, as much as she celebrates having her own share of space and time, so much does she feel comfortable in offering it to her partner.
This, in turn, has a profound impact on an embodied man. He cannot help but notice this shift in the polarity of the relationship and feels even more attracted towards her.
2. Staying connected to her own deepest emotions
When a woman feels safe connecting with her emotional world, she automatically creates a safe environment for her relationship and her partner as well.
By leading through her vulnerability, she sends an unspoken message to her man that he too can unpack his emotions here.
Her feminine energy of ease is what awakens the King in a man. He finds emotional safety in being around such a woman because now he can let his guard down and just be who he truly is.
In this process of staying connected to her most raw emotions, an embodied woman sets the tone for a romantic relationship that’s soaked in authenticity, vulnerability and courage.
In a world where humans are struggling to stay real, these behaviours infuse a sense of divinity in the relationship inspiring a man to show up and lead with integrity.
3. Letting him know she sees him (no fixing, no mothering, just acknowledging she understands and is around for him)
A woman embodying her divine feminine essence lives the laws of feminine-masculine polarity like her second nature.
She understands that her sacred union with a masculine man is founded on these powerful laws of magnetism. And so it is not her place to mother, smother or fix her man’s problems without an invitation.
Her compassion for her embodied masculine man in distress runs through her energy. She witnesses him as he is, without trying to solve/ fix his problems and making him feel emasculated.
A man in deep connection with his masculine essence wants to feel like the leader, the problem- solver in his relationship. Not the other way round. And she understands that.
And yet, owing to the bountiful love she holds for him in her heart, she stays around. Offering her energy of warmth and radiance as a soothing balm to his distress.
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4. Communicating her desires with respect towards herself & towards him.
When a woman lives in inner harmony of her masculine & feminine energies, she naturally is masterful in her feminine art of communication.
In that process, she learns how to express her desires without coming across as unreasonable or demanding.
Her communication is infused with respect for herself and for the man she is in love with.
Considering that respect happens to be the biggest aphrodisiac for a man, it not only brings him closer romantically but also sets a precedent for all future communication in the relationship.
5. Receiving his love and efforts with an open heart.
A woman in her feminine energy understands that nothing inspires a man more than her feminine energy of receiving.
After all, masculine energy is the giving, the providing, the leading energy. Which when comes in contact with her feminine energy of receiving, being, surrendering- the attraction in her relationship is inevitable.
And so she receives the love, attention, affection of her man with an open heart, radiating her joy as an acknowledgement to his efforts.
6. When the urge to reciprocate arises, remembering to return his efforts with her joy, warmth and radiance
An embodied woman understands that she doesn’t need to compete with her man’s efforts to show him her love.
She knows that doesn’t need to become his clone in order to feel loved, heard and cherished.
Her man sees her when she is embodying the polar opposite of his energy. Meaning, when he offers to give, she joyfully receives. When he wants to take the lead, she is happy to follow.
(this might sound counter-intuitive to the modern twisted definition of feminism you last heard. I encourage you to read my first book if you’d like to understand the science behind feminine-masculine polarity)
7. Trusting and surrendering in his devoted leadership towards their relationship
Masculine energy signifies innate leadership. To a man embodying his masculine energy, it is an honour to be allowed to lead and provide for the people he loves.
When a feminine energy woman entrusts her faith in her man’s ability to take care of their relationship, she further fuels his connection with his divine masculine essence. It sets him on a path of devoted leadership to his woman & to their relationship for the times to come.
One of the best gifts you as a Goddess in love can offer to a man is your trust. Trust that he strives to earn with all his actions, small and big from the moment he meets you.
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When you learn to just flow in your feminine energy, the above ways do not feel like work. They simply are a residual effect of your ease, of your flow and of your worthiness.
By returning home to your divinely magnetic essence of a woman, you awaken the God in a man.
If what you’re calling in your love life right now is a man in deep connection with his masculine essence, perform a self-check and ask yourself,
How far have I come on my path of feminine embodiment?
How much closer am I from returning to my home, to my essence?
What’s in my way and what can I do to liberate that and clear my path?
At every heart break, at every self sabotage in love, the divine (feminine) in you is pulsating with your life force energy, hungering to come alive, asking you to let her animate you, let her come to life.
Come, return home, begin your beautiful journey of feminine embodiment today.
journey deeper
If you’re desiring to learn the powerful skills of feminine embodiment in love and apply the laws of romantic polarity in your love life, I invite you to explore my powerful book Becoming a Goddess in love.
In parts 7-9 of this book, I show you how you can awaken & inspire the Divine Masculine in your man/ the men you’re dating and become a receiver of his devotion towards you and your relationship.
If you’d like to learn more, you can explore the contents of this powerful offering here.
related reading
Do you know what’s one of the biggest challenges we women face on our journey of feminine embodiment in love? It’s the struggle of relaxing back in our feminine energy of surrender. Our control + outcome oriented masculine energy does practically help us in areas of our work or even in some areas of our love life but when we zoom out and look at our overall love life, we realise that there’s nothing’s more powerful than our feminine energy of surrender. Read this article to learn how to embody your energy of surrender in your love life.
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