Embodying your feminine essence in love

Embodying your feminine essence in love

Embodying your feminine essence in love, an article for the woman who wants to learn the powerful skills of feminine embodiment in love and activate the laws of romantic polarity in her love life.


Embodiment means inhabiting all of ourselves. It is a way of being in which we are fully embodying all that we are in any given moment. 

The feminine in feminine embodiment refers to the essence of feeling, flowing, sensing, receiving, surrendering to the process instead of trying to control the outcome. An essence that’s depth-oriented and not direction-oriented (masculine energy).

In the practical sense, feminine embodiment looks like living more in our body and less in our head. It looks like spiralling less in our thoughts and connecting more to our feelings.

It is about trusting that unlimited supply of wisdom our body offers us through its intuitions, nudges, cues throughout our lifetime.

A truly embodied woman derives her sense of self confidence, her sense of self worth and her sense of self belief from her inner wisdom that I like to call the Divine intelligence, that serves like an inner GPS guiding her on her path to a blissful and fulfilled life. 

In fact, when a woman begins the process of embodying her feminine essence, it takes a beautiful spill on her love life too. 

When connected with her feminine essence, she naturally becomes magnetic to a masculine man. By

  • flowing in her feminine energy,
  • practicing vulnerability with boundaries, and
  • staying deeply anchored in her worth,

she inspires the men/ man in her life to show up in their masculine energy for her.

They want to be there for her when she needs them, provide for her with their most generous acts of service. 

They want to be around her all the time, simply because they cannot resist it. (feminine-masculine polarity)

When in a committed relationship, 

her feminine embodiment looks like feeling comfortable with receiving the affection and attention her masculine energy partner gives to her.

She lives each day with a self-sourced assurance in the love he has for her. She feels secure in her relationship both in his presence and his absence.

In case of conflicts, she expresses her concerns with love without spending her days resenting him, feeling jealous or harbouring insecurities.

She lets the man be, without feeling the need to mother him or fix his problems without his invitation.

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When single and dating, 

her feminine embodiment looks like not feeling the need to rush into anything with just any man she meets.

Not only does she feel safe exploring her options but also stays open to the infinite possibilities that exist for her in the dating world.

She feels self-assured in owning and protecting her standards in love, not settling for anything less than what she truly desires and deserves.

She practices effortless embodied presence and lets the masculine pursue her, impress her and win her heart.

As a woman embodied in her feminine essence, the idea of chasing men, leading her dating process or initiating efforts feels out of alignment with her truth. 

What differentiates a woman connected with her feminine essence from the ones who aren’t, is the way she lives her life.

She is rooted in the belief that the love she truly desires is already out there. And that in its own Divine timing, it will come find her. All that she needs to do is to show up in the world (of dating) as her radiant and embodied self. 

If you would like to learn the skills of feminine embodiment in love through a self-study resource, I invite you to explore my book, Becoming a Goddess in love.

Consisting of 9 parts, this ebook will show you how to reclaim your feminine essence, radiance & power in love. So many women from around the globe have used the wisdom of feminine embodiment shared in this book to transform their love lives. 

Here’s where you can learn more about this powerful offering.

What weakens the polarity in our romantic relationships

What weakens the polarity in our romantic relationships

What weakens the polarity in our romantic relationships, an article for the woman who wants to re-activate the attraction in her love life.


Every once in a while, I think of my past disembodied relationships and who I used to be then. 

As a hyper-masculine, disconnected woman, the only way I knew to operate was to lead my romantic relationships, playing Mommy to my ex-partners, providing for them, rescuing them from their money problems and what not. 

I was so deeply drowning in that way of living with no hope of a life beyond that reality.

In retrospect, it feels like the blessing of a karmic gift that I experienced everything I went through in those years. Towards the end of which, in my 3D reality, my body came to my rescue.

After landing in the hospital for an emergency surgery amidst my ‘busy’ life of over-working, I was forced to slow down.  

As I slowed down physically, my inner world started slowing down as well, helping me connect with my heart, my feelings, my desires, my essence.

Opening my soul’s eyes to the mess I had got myself in. 

The rest, as they say, is history. 

Three months later, I had walked away from the longest adult relationship of my life only to fall so deeply in love with myself. And then slowly and gradually cultivate the feminine art of receiving in my being, creating an infinitely large space within me to receive from men, and from the rest of the world. 

In less than a year, I had gone from being a depleted woman to a deeply nourished woman who felt comfortable :

..allowing the men in her dating circle to travel >100kms to pick her for their date and drop her back safely home.

..receiving the acts of service from those men without feeling the slightest need to return those loving gestures.

..pacing out her suitors to honour her preferences and standards around intimacy and commitment. 

If you asked me today, what was the most pivotal aspect of my healing, I’d tell you- it was healing the shadow side of my Mother archetype and reconnecting with my inner magnetic woman.

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As the eldest of my siblings, I had the giver and doer energy activated in me from an early age.

But meeting wounded masculine/passive men in the early years of my young adult life drew that energy out of me in unhealthy proportions. 

I was hopelessly trapped in the cycles of over-giving and then feeling resentfulover-doing and then feeling bitter to my core. 

When you keep pouring from a cup for years without filling it back, it runs dry to an extent that you can see the marks of dried out tea at its bottom. That cup desperately needs to be washed and cleaned inside out, and refilled again. 

When this beautiful value of nurturing and caring for others is practiced from an under-resourced and under-supported state of being (especially in the area of our romantic relationships), it can lead to SO much self-harm. 

Not only does it end up depleting us but also does it lead to extinguishing any possibility of romantic polarity that could have been established in that relationship. 

What weakens the polarity in our romantic relationships

A man who may have taken on his embodied role of leading, providing, initiating, taking care of you and your relationship when treated like a toddler, mothered and smothered by his woman starts behaving like one. 

And then we are left wondering why does this man never lead.

We expect the man to be the leader in our relationship but when he does, the wounded side of our Mother feminine archetype is standing over his head with a list of ways he could have done it correctly.

This shadow side of our Mother archetype isn’t just limited to when we are in partnered dynamics. 

If it’s part of our deeper conditioning, it can show up in how we date as well. 

~ Meeting a date halfway to make it easier and more convenient for him.. 

~ Offering to pay the check when you’re meeting a man who asked you out on a romantic date.. 

And at a deeper level, 

~ Leaning forward in your energy by thinking of a future with a man without he having mentioned about it ever! 

~ Being in the energetic state of leading the dating process forward, thinking of ways to “make things happen” in that courting process.

Everything around us is energy. And all of us feel it. 

Men, especially the embodied ones, feel the overpowering impact of your masculine leading energy and their inherent masculine nature feels repelled by your presence no matter how attractive they may find you at the physical level. 

Romantic polarity, that is the force of attraction between a masculine energy man and a feminine energy woman, keeps weakening with each instance of the two people abandoning their core energetic expression. 

So how do we turn this around? 

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As a feminine energy woman, you take responsibility of your part by embodying the laws of feminine-masculine polarity at a somatic level, at your energetic level.

By staying relaxed and rooted in your powerful feminine essence. By understanding how polarity works and integrating that knowledge in your being, thus becoming a woman who is magnetic to (so many) men around her. 

In my work, I help my clients do that by sharing with them the skills of polarity through my powerful book Becoming a Goddess in love.

Consisting of 9 parts, this book will show you how to reclaim your feminine essence, radiance & power and use it all to revolutionise your love life. You will learn how to apply the laws of romantic polarity in your relationship/dating life and inspire the devotion of your man/the men you’re dating.

So many women around the globe have used the wisdom shared in this book to transform the way they show up in their love lives. If you’d like to learn more, you can explore its powerful contents here.

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When you are embodying your feminine energy, that is when you are simply being, flowing, surrendering, receiving, the men who are already in embodiment of their masculine energy instantly feel and notice that. The ones who are just starting out, not so much. After all, not all men in the world have the potential to become the God in love at the same time, right? Read this article to learn the 7 ways an embodied woman can awaken the God in a man. 

4 reasons why we women need embodied boundaries in our relationships

4 reasons why we women need embodied boundaries in our relationships

4 reasons why we women need embodied boundaries in our relationships, an article for the woman who wants to reconnect with her feminine power by learning the art of setting and upholding boundaries.


Like a lot of us, you too must have heard about the concept of boundaries on the Internet, through your peers or in your self-development books.

What I understood from the courses I participated in, the books I read and the practitioners I followed early in my journey, was that boundaries meant knowing what I like or don’t like and letting people around me know that.

Except back then, forming a boundary felt like a guarding system that I had to ‘put up’ to protect myself. It felt like a constant effort-requiring act that needed to be ‘maintained’ by me every single time. At the end of which, I’d feel so exhausted that most often, I would either end that act of putting up that boundary OR try to simply avoid being in situations that needed me to hold that boundary.

What I didn’t know or rather had not learnt until then was that when a boundary is set up in the right way, it becomes life-generating not life-depleting.

What made my back then process of setting up a boundary so exhausting was the fact that I was setting the boundary first and embodying (more like trying to) it later.

This outside-in process wasn’t serving me. I would either start doubting my own self in that process or be always scared of practising that boundary. 

It took me a long winding journey to learn that there indeed is an easier way to set and commit to our boundaries. 

Something that is also known as healthy or embodied boundaries.

Maybe you already know what those are. Maybe what you know about boundaries is what matches the definition of disembodied (unhealthy) boundaries. 

And while having an unhealthy or disembodied boundary is still much better than having no boundaries, for the sake of clarity, let’s first understand what distinguishes embodied boundaries from the opposite of it.

Boundaries by definition are personal rules or limits we create as a standard for interaction with other people/ situations. 

The way we choose to interact with the world, and with the people in it, is largely defined by the boundaries we hold, and embody. 

Boundaries also inform how we will respond if/when someone crosses those limits.

Our boundaries are a part of our essence, always pulsating, living, breathing in one way or the other. They’re constantly being fueled by our being, our heart, our standards and our preferences.

For us to be able to show up in our relationships as our authentic self, we need a set of boundaries to protect us in that process of sharing our beautiful vulnerabilities. 

So let’s go a little deeper today and understand the 4 reasons why we need our own individual set of embodied boundaries if we want to show up in the world in our feminine radiance:

1. Boundaries help us define our unique identity (to ourselves and to the world).

When we don’t know who we are or what types of behaviours/ conditions/ experiences we desire to consent to, we become no one. 

For us to know how we prefer to operate in this human world, we need to know what we like, what we don’t like, what we can say yes to, what we would like to say no to.   

Similarly for a person to know you as/ for something, they need to know what is acceptable when they are around you, what is not acceptable when they are with you. If you haven’t done the work to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t, it would really not be fair to expect another being to respect your ‘undefined’ preferences. 

We are all holding and embodying a boundary of some form at all times. Even an apparent ‘lack of boundaries’ is a boundary we are holding and embodying. Boundaries can be: 

~ Healthy: creating an empowering sense of identity, rooted in love and compassion, further enhancing our integrity and generosity.

~ Unhealthy: creating a sense of depletion, rooted in wounding and resentment, enhancing undesirable (for us) quality/ qualities. 

~ Absent: a sense of no direction or objective, depending on other’s preferences and standards (rather than embodying one’s own). 

In absence of boundaries, we tend to develop unhealthy forms of attachment like codependency. Something that is not recommendable when it comes to the health of our relationships. 

In order to fully actualise the vision you hold for yourself in different areas of your life, you need to clarify, create, embody and hold boundaries that serve you and help you thrive as the woman in that desirable version of you. 

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2. Boundaries help us in our decision-making process. 

Our boundaries have one of the following three orientations: 



Still deciding 

Where “still deciding” isn’t necessarily the same as maybe. Somewhere in between a yes and a no, it’s a choice we make when we are trying to avoid holding boundaries. It also means that we genuinely may not have an answer yet. Still deciding will lead to a yes, or a no, eventually. 

Every single decision you make in your life is informed by your boundaries. And without clear boundaries, it becomes increasingly difficult to make decisions (and thus move forward) in the world.

For instance, reflect upon your current dating life and explore if you have clear answers to the following questions.

Are you available to be a texting buddy to your dating match(es)?

Do you feel comfortable having sex with a man who hasn’t offered you a solid commitment yet?

Would you be okay to date a man who doesn’t match one of your minimum standards yet but feels good to be around with?

The answer to all of these questions depends on the health of your boundaries. 

Take some time out today to research in what part of your life, you’re in the ‘still deciding’ orientation. Drop into your heart and research the answers to all such questions and decide what it is that you truly would want to happen if anything was possible for you. 

3. Embodied boundaries help us honour ourselves 

Have you ever said yes, but meant no? 

Have you ever left your intention unclear, undefined, unsaid? 

or have you ever not fully asked for what you wanted? 

Do you remember how that felt to your inner world? Not good, I’m guessing. 

Every woman knows what it’s like to dishonour her boundaries as this is the part that inspires us to learn how to create healthy boundaries. 

If you’re unable to form a clear yes/no based on your own existing set of boundaries, then the natural result is that you’ll dishonour yourself. 

You’ll agree to going to a man’s house when you didn’t want to go to. You’ll agree to be penetrated when you are not prepared.

Each moment of dishonouring can lead to the build up of constrictions in our energy. Some may lead to shame, some may lead to a lot of buried pain and sadness, others may lead to resentment towards ourselves and the person who dishonoured us.

Experiences of such dishonour towards ourselves can leave us feeling rather powerless when actually we are immensely powerful beings.

When you learn how to embody your boundaries, it becomes so effortless and guilt free to be able to say no to what doesn’t serve you.

4. Boundaries help us eliminate resentment and birth compassion.

A lot of cultures around the globe perpetuate the belief that women are supposed to give first and take care of others first.

The same programming when fed to us in our formative years leads us to believe that we are ‘supposed’ to prioritise the needs of others before our own. 

When we don’t speak up for what we want/need, when we let others walk over us, and when we don’t embody strong boundaries we may be giving from a place of lack, or self-sacrifice. We’ve been trained to think this is a noble thing to do, and that it makes us a good person.

But is that really true? 

How do you feel when…

  • a man you’ve just met tries to force his ideologies upon you?
  • you give to a man your attention, time, energy in amounts that you very well know he hasn’t earned yet? 
  • you agree to sex but don’t want it?

Do you feel compassionate, generous, and inspired in those actions? Or do you feel resigned, resentful and angry at the end of it all? 

One of the most common reasons behind why the health of our relationships, the romantic ones in particular, declines over time is the resentment that women build within them as a result of their over-giving nature. 

In absence of boundaries around when and how much to give to a relationship, they end up feeling bitter and resentful of their partner. 

Not to forget that this over-giving approach is a very masculine one to begin with.

And so when we create, hold and embody the boundaries that serve our emotional health, we are able to show up in the outside world with integrity, compassion and generosity, all of which align with our feminine power.

We learn to give from the overflow of our cup, not the depth of it. 

There’s grace in our energy, there is honesty in our words and actions.

If you’re an empath/ sensitive woman like me, I can’t describe how uncomplicated your life will become once you start practicing this life-generating skill of setting embodied boundaries. 

You’ll no longer have to succumb to being the nice girl to any and every person.

You can hold your ground and yet be the most generous and compassionate woman when you show up in the world. You can honour yourself by respecting your own boundaries and honour the person in front of you by practising radical honesty. 

Your boundaries when embodied fuel your feminine power. A power that’s devoid of arrogance and is rooted in love and compassion.

A power state you were inherently assigned as a woman, one that may have been lost or forgotten on the way. One that can be regained, one that makes life so liveable, so much fun, so easy and so effortless.

Your boundaries are the simplest medium to channel that power in the 3D world we live in. 

Whether it’s your dating life, your social interactions, your workplace relationships, your embodied boundaries help you- define your identity, make your decision making process unimaginably easier, honour yourself with utmost sincerity and eliminate resentment while birthing compassion in your heart for yourself and for the world.

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If you’d like to learn the art of setting embodied boundaries, I invite you to explore my core feminine embodiment program, Your Magnetic Femininity.

In this deeply transformative course, I help you reconnect with the elements of your feminine power and use them to build an internal protection system that keeps you safe as you show up in the world in your feminine value of vulnerability. 

You can learn more about its rich curriculum here.

Reclaiming your worth in love 

Reclaiming your worth in love 

Reclaiming your worth in love, an article for the woman who wants to feel worthy of the love, affection and adoration her man/ the men she is dating send her way.


When I first entered the scene of modern dating in my later twenties, I was a first time single woman since the age of 17. 

I had no idea of how modern dating worked, I never had to download a dating app because there were enough men around me to choose from and get into an instant relationship with. (like Liz says in Eat Pray Love, I was either breaking up with a guy or entering into a relationship with another guy!)

But the damage that my last relationship caused to my self-esteem made me completely forget who I was.

And so, even though I didn’t have any of the skills of feminine embodiment that I teach in my work today, I couldn’t help but notice how attractive I was for the men online. 

I was observing how in less than 15 mins, my profile would have hundreds of men of different colours, nationalities, ethnicities swiping on me. 

I was paying attention to how some men would even travel all the way from Abu Dhabi to come meet me at the other end in Dubai. 

Deep within, I didn’t feel worthy of all that attention and affection and yet there was a part of me curious to know what was it that made so many men want to get a minute of my time. 

In those early months, I was once on a date with a man who was consistently pursuing me. He paused eating and looked into my eyes and said to me, “Can I ask you a favour? I nodded.

He continued, “I don’t like it so much when you do all the work of planning our dates. I want to please you not the other way round. Can you let me do that?”

And the rest, as they, is history.

My hyper-masculine behaviour drove him way, soon after which I set inwards on an exploratory journey to understand what this man meant, and why did I not feel worthy of being the prize a man so desperately wants to claim and cherish. 

That was precisely when my journey of feminine embodiment in love started. 

Today, I can tell you this with utmost surety that you, a woman, is the ultimate prize that any man would consider himself fortunate of receiving. 

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You don’t have to lift a finger and there will be guys willing to devote themselves to you, serve you with their leadership for almost nothing in return. 

Because they know that you, the woman, is the prize in love. 

It is this same reason why a man will go down on one knee to ask a woman to marry him, why he will put himself in that vulnerable position when he takes the emotional risk of expressing his love out aloud. 

Men know the power women hold in a relationship. 

And it is for the very fear of this power as to why a lot of disembodied men will string along women in years of relationships without offering them the commitment they desire. (unless of course, they’re carrying their own fears of commitment) 

Embodied men know this power and revere and worship it. Disembodied ones will do anything to dominate or evade the impact of this power. 

My clients who are single & dating don’t just meet a guy on a dating app and agree to his proposal to move-in, to become his girlfriend when they are looking for a commitment like a lifelong partnership. 

I feel no more shame in sharing it with the world how many girlfriend proposals, how many requests to move in, etc. have I refused in the last couple of years.  

That’s the magic of your embodied self-worth. Once you have seen it, you can’t un-see it. Once you have felt it in your being, you can not not feel it. 

No matter how strong the attraction, no matter what a ‘catch’ the guy in front of you is, you won’t be able to override your heart’s desires and settle for anything less that what you truly desire and deserve. 

You know your worth, you see it, you feel it, you honour it.

Ten out of ten times, the women who approach me to work on the romantic polarity in their relationships, see things turn around the moment they start reclaiming their worth in their love lives.

Previously disconnected from their feminine essence (and their self-worth as a result), their men start seeing them when they start seeing themselves.. in all their glory, in all their magnificence. 

If you’ve read my first book, you know the kind of proposals I have said no to. Simply because I see who I am, because I know what’s my worth and because I know what I’m here for when it comes to my desires in love. There’s no shame, there’s no resistance in honouring my deepest desire for a partnership that’s worthy of my heart, my essence and my presence. 

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This element, the element of your embodied self-worth, is the heart of your feminine energetics in love. 

One that can be embodied by somatically liberating all the barriers that are in the way of your connection with it. One can be somatically felt and integrated in your being. 

Reclaiming our worth is a skill that can be learnt and practiced until it becomes a part of our nature.  

A skill that I teach my clients in my 7-step feminine energy activation program Rise with the Feminine.

If you’re looking for a self-study resource to reclaim your worth in love and in life, you are welcome to explore this offering where I guide you to reconnect and anchor in your feminine value of enough-ness and live, love & lead from your feminine heart and power.

Here’s where you can learn more about its powerful inclusions:

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In my experience of working with women, I have noticed how it isn’t for the lack of our decisiveness that we say yes to men with traits we don’t want. It is our : 1. lack of clarity around what we truly, truly desire in love and in life, and 2. lack of self worth, that feeling of “who am I to want more”, that leads us to settle for whatever ‘decent’ comes along. Read this article to learn how to cultivate clarity around your desires in love.

9 ways to melt your masculine shield & reconnect with your feminine radiance

9 ways to melt your masculine shield & reconnect with your feminine radiance

9 ways to melt your masculine shield & reconnect with your feminine radiance, a video series for the woman who wants to melt the hardness in her feminine being and return home to her softness, her radiance, her magnetism. 


We are currently living in a go-go, hyper-masculine world that values hustling, pushing, striving, exerting more than anything else. 

It teaches us to man up, to tighten up when the going gets tough. 

It values perfection over vulnerability, competition over connection. 

In such times, it is so easy to harden up, to build up a masculine shield when things don’t go our way. 

Instead of softening and melting into our truth that’s so safely held within our feminine bodies, we build an armour to protect us from the outside world, from our own shadows. 

And while that armour does its job by giving us the temporary illusion of safety, in the longer run it ends up disconnecting us from our feminine, feeling, sensitive nature. And in turn from our innate feminine magnetism.

I recently completed a new video series for my YouTube channel sharing 9 ways you can melt your masculine shield & reconnect with your feminine radiance.  

Here’s where you can watch it too.

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If you are looking for a simple (and proven) step-by-step process to melt your masculine shield and reconnect with your feminine radiance, I invite you to explore Rise with the Feminine, my 7-step feminine energy activation program

And if you’re desiring deeper healing, you can learn how to peel the layers of your hyper-masculine conditioning and reconnect with the full spectrum of your femininity with my core feminine embodiment course Your Magnetic Femininity.