Reclaiming your worth in love, an article for the woman who wants to feel worthy of the love, affection and adoration her man/ the men she is dating send her way.
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When I first entered the scene of modern dating in my later twenties, I was a first time single woman since the age of 17.
I had no idea of how modern dating worked, I never had to download a dating app because there were enough men around me to choose from and get into an instant relationship with. (like Liz says in Eat Pray Love, I was either breaking up with a guy or entering into a relationship with another guy!)
But the damage that my last relationship caused to my self-esteem made me completely forget who I was.
And so, even though I didn’t have any of the skills of feminine embodiment that I teach in my work today, I couldn’t help but notice how attractive I was for the men online.
I was observing how in less than 15 mins, my profile would have hundreds of men of different colours, nationalities, ethnicities swiping on me.
I was paying attention to how some men would even travel all the way from Abu Dhabi to come meet me at the other end in Dubai.
Deep within, I didn’t feel worthy of all that attention and affection and yet there was a part of me curious to know what was it that made so many men want to get a minute of my time.
In those early months, I was once on a date with a man who was consistently pursuing me. He paused eating and looked into my eyes and said to me, “Can I ask you a favour? I nodded.
He continued, “I don’t like it so much when you do all the work of planning our dates. I want to please you not the other way round. Can you let me do that?”
And the rest, as they, is history.
My hyper-masculine behaviour drove him way, soon after which I set inwards on an exploratory journey to understand what this man meant, and why did I not feel worthy of being the prize a man so desperately wants to claim and cherish.
That was precisely when my journey of feminine embodiment in love started.
Today, I can tell you this with utmost surety that you, a woman, is the ultimate prize that any man would consider himself fortunate of receiving.
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You don’t have to lift a finger and there will be guys willing to devote themselves to you, serve you with their leadership for almost nothing in return.
Because they know that you, the woman, is the prize in love.
It is this same reason why a man will go down on one knee to ask a woman to marry him, why he will put himself in that vulnerable position when he takes the emotional risk of expressing his love out aloud.
Men know the power women hold in a relationship.
And it is for the very fear of this power as to why a lot of disembodied men will string along women in years of relationships without offering them the commitment they desire. (unless of course, they’re carrying their own fears of commitment)
Embodied men know this power and revere and worship it. Disembodied ones will do anything to dominate or evade the impact of this power.
My clients who are single & dating don’t just meet a guy on a dating app and agree to his proposal to move-in, to become his girlfriend when they are looking for a commitment like a lifelong partnership.
I feel no more shame in sharing it with the world how many girlfriend proposals, how many requests to move in, etc. have I refused in the last couple of years.
That’s the magic of your embodied self-worth. Once you have seen it, you can’t un-see it. Once you have felt it in your being, you can not not feel it.
No matter how strong the attraction, no matter what a ‘catch’ the guy in front of you is, you won’t be able to override your heart’s desires and settle for anything less that what you truly desire and deserve.
You know your worth, you see it, you feel it, you honour it.
Ten out of ten times, the women who approach me to work on the romantic polarity in their relationships, see things turn around the moment they start reclaiming their worth in their love lives.
Previously disconnected from their feminine essence (and their self-worth as a result), their men start seeing them when they start seeing themselves.. in all their glory, in all their magnificence.
If you’ve read my first book, you know the kind of proposals I have said no to. Simply because I see who I am, because I know what’s my worth and because I know what I’m here for when it comes to my desires in love. There’s no shame, there’s no resistance in honouring my deepest desire for a partnership that’s worthy of my heart, my essence and my presence.
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This element, the element of your embodied self-worth, is the heart of your feminine energetics in love.
One that can be embodied by somatically liberating all the barriers that are in the way of your connection with it. One can be somatically felt and integrated in your being.
Reclaiming our worth is a skill that can be learnt and practiced until it becomes a part of our nature.
If you’re looking for a self-study resource to reclaim your worth in love and in life, you are welcome to explore this offering where I guide you to reconnect and anchor in your innate enough-ness and live, love & lead from your divinely magnetic femininity.
Here’s where you can learn more about its contents.
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In my experience of working with women, I have noticed how it isn’t for thelack of our decisiveness that we say yes to men with traits we don’t want. It is our : 1. lack of clarity around what we truly, truly desire in love and in life, and 2. lack of self worth, that feeling of “who am I to want more”, that leads us to settle for whatever ‘decent’ comes along. Read this article to learn how to cultivate clarity around your desires in love.
9 ways to melt your masculine shield & reconnect with your feminine radiance, a video series for the woman who wants to melt the hardness in her feminine being and return home to her softness, her radiance, her magnetism.
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We are currently living in a go-go, hyper-masculine world that values hustling, pushing, striving, exerting more than anything else.
It teaches us to man up, to tighten up when the going gets tough.
It values perfection over vulnerability, competition over connection.
In such times, it is so easy to harden up, to build up a masculine shield when things don’t go our way.
Instead of softening and melting into our truth that’s so safely held within our feminine bodies, we build an armour to protect us from the outside world, from our own shadows.
And while that armour does its job by giving us the temporary illusion of safety, in the longer run it ends up disconnecting us from our feminine, feeling, sensitive nature. And in turn from our innate feminine magnetism.
I recently completed a new video series for my YouTube channel sharing 9 ways you can melt your masculine shield & reconnect with your feminine radiance.
If you’re desiring the support of a self-study resource to melt your masculine shield and reconnect with your feminine radiance, I invite you to explore my signature feminine embodiment course Your Magnetic Femininity. This offering will help you peel back the layers of your hyper-masculine conditioning and reconnect with your divinely magnetic femininity.
And if you’d like to explore working with me privately, here’s where you can lear more about my 1-1 offerings.
Embodying our feminine archetype of the sensual Lover, an article for the woman who wants to reconnect with the power of her sensuality in love and in life.
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When I first discovered (non-sexual) pleasure in my body, I felt as though I had found the meaning to my life,
the meaning to my existence,
the meaning to my womanhood.
But often in those early instances, I used to feel a faint pull of my old hyper-masculine conditioning. After all, spending hours turned inwards to my pleasure wasn’t getting anything done.
I was not being ‘productive’ in my days, this practice of cultivating depths of my pleasure wasn’t something I could show to the world (and to myself) as my that day’s work. It felt completely irrational and illogical to the recovering workaholic in me.
And yet, something in me wanted to stay here, in my body, feeling that juicy, life-giving pleasure, marinating myself in it. So I continued to do that.
The self-critical voice diminished and died soon after and I went swimming in the deeper end of my sensual embodiment.
Surprisingly enough, it didn’t take long for this connection with myself to reflect in my connection with the world.
It deepened my receptivity when it came to my love life, where my moments of intimacy with the men in my dating circle became so much more than just kissing and fondling.
I could literally feel our sexual energies meeting each other without any form of sexual contact in picture.
Fast forward to today, living and showing up in my sensual connection so effortlessly invites the penetrative masculine energy of these men in my life further deepening our intimacy and polarity.
So here’s the thing, sweets.
We are living in a world where a woman’s connection with her sensuality (and in turn with her sexuality) is so manipulated, degraded, suppressed by our patriarchal society that we start seeing it as something dirty, sinful and disgraceful (the only exception being when it’s a man bringing pleasure to a woman).
This so sneakily diminishes our connection with our sacred feminine archetype of the sensual Lover that is the most easily identifiable archetype of an embodied feminine woman.
The slow, sensual, emotionally connected, magnetic, passionate, creative woman.
Considered as the personification of our sacred sensuality, we are embodying this archetype when we feel the most sensually alive, emotionally connected, deeply fulfilled, ravished by love and intimacy, and are in tune with our life force energy of creativity, inspiration and magnetism.
The magic of this archetype reflects in your most intimate relationships when it pulls a man and keeps him glued to you like a magnet.
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Your natural and juicy expansiveness creates the space for you to fully receive and feel ravished by everything this man does for you.
You stop measuring the magnitude of his offerings of love, intimacy, affection, attention, acts of service and start receiving them as they are, radiating your warmth, joy and pleasure as his return gift.
His masculine energy feels the pull of this magnetic, receiving, feminine energy of yours and wants to give you more, to keep pouring into the infinitely large reservoir of your being.
He lives every waking day of his life to fill that reservoir of your feminine essence.
It is this depth of polarity that keeps men devoted to their women no matter what seasons of life pass them.
It is this strength of attraction that makes a man go from being just a suitor to a smitten, committed, deeply devoted masculine partner.
Just like we women feel the most fulfilled when connected with our feminine essence, men too feel their lives fully actualised when they get to show up for you in their masculine essence.
And it all starts with you melting your hard, masculine armour and allowing yourself to connect with the most profound gift of your womanhood- your sensuality. A gift that makes you a natural receiver of the love, affection, admiration and adoration (embodied) masculine men shower upon you.
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If you are looking for a self-paced resource to learn how to connect with your feminine essence of pleasure and sensuality, I invite you to explore Your Magnetic Femininity, my signature feminine embodiment course.
In modules 5 & 6 of this powerful offering, I show you how you can awaken your divinely magnetic feminine energy by somatically connecting with your sensual aliveness and healing your relationship with your sacred sexuality.
Here’s where you can learn more about this powerful program.
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Our sensuality is our capacity to discover and connect with the aliveness, vitality and pleasure that’s pulsating through our body by using our five external and infinite internal senses. Read this article to learn 4 simple ways you can start reconnecting with your sensuality and aliveness in your day to day life.
The intuitive wisdom of our feminine nature, an article for the woman who wants to learn how to connect with her intuitive intelligence.
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In the current hyper-masculine world that we live in, one of the most underestimated powers of our femininity is our gift of intuition.
Commonly believed to be an element of woman’s inner power, the domain of intuition is simply the feminine– the feeling, sensing energy that connects us to the truth, to the ‘right’ answers to our questions.
After all, our intuitive wisdom is the language that the Divine essence (spiritual dimension) in our body uses to guide us towards our desires.
Lets’s go a little deeper to understand this.
The intuitive wisdom of our feminine nature
So, our body consists of 4 dimensions- physical, mental, emotional and energetic, that have an overarching fifth dimension- the spiritual, one that represents the essence of the Divine, the One that’s in each one of us.
Regardless of what area of our life we are calling a new desire in, it is imperative that we set clear intentions with regard to what we really want.
Because our fifth dimension, the essence of the Divine in us, uses these intentions as guideposts and accordingly communicates to us via our intuition whether we are on or off track on our journey towards our desired destination.
(For the sake of clarity, this destination can be a feeling, a vision, a 3D figure, person, situation, job or simply a state of being)
In fact, the Divine essence in us uses the help of the other four dimensions of our body to communicate its message to us in our 3D reality.
These intuitive knowings, cues, nudges can feel like they’re..
Physical- where we might feel them via the sensations in our body, a knot in our gut, a constriction in our solar plexus, heaviness in our heart, etc.
Emotional- where we might feel extremely sad or ecstatic during the occurrence of an event.
Mental- where we might be reminded of an idea or a thought of a similar situation from the past.
Energetic- where we might notice a shift (drop or rise) in our vibration, our aura, our energetic state.
Almost always, it is via the feel of it, the feel of a sensation, an emotion, a thought or an energetic vibration that our intuition is speaking to us.
The truth, as I always say in my work, is in the feel of it. The truth is in the feel of it.
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When something doesn’t feel right, it isn’t right. For you. At that moment.
Now, there is no rulebook of life that says that we have to listen to our intuition. It is entirely up to us whether we want to listen to this message or not.
There are countless times in our lives when we have ignored our intuition and gone ahead to do the exact opposite of what it has told us. Only to take a longer (and a messier) route to a point where we were left with no choice than to attend to this divine intervention.
Because here is the interesting thing.
Since we are not taught, trained, or educated to learn this language of the Divine, we grow up either totally oblivious of it or choose to stay ignorant of this superpower that we were born with.
Because of our lack of belief in our own power, we rely on external support systems like card readings, crystals, readings from psychics and what not to guide us on our path. (nothing wrong with them as long as we haven’t made them the ONLY source of divine guidance.)
Knowing about this superpower and choosing to not use it is almost like saying, “What I cannot see with my naked eyes, I won’t believe in”.
Just because we don’t witness this power in the obvious ways in our 3D reality, it is very easy for most of us to question its legitimacy and have a hard time trusting it.
Exactly what brings us to the question of how one can then use this invisible power of intuition to navigate life and its tricky situations.
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Learning how to understand the language of our intuition is a skill, a very important one at that.
It lies at the heart of our feminine magnetism, playing a vital role in the process of manifestation of our heart’s deepest and wildest desires.
A skill that I help my clients cultivate in my signature coaching offering – The Magnetic Woman.
This 6-weeks private coaching container is for you if you want to reconnect with your magnetic feminine essence and call in your deepest (and wildest) desires in life, love, business and money with utmost ease & pleasure.
If you’re feeling called, here’s where you can learn more about this offering.
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Some say feminine embodiment in a skill, others say it’s an art. To me, it feels like a journey within. A journey of reconnecting with the feminine design nature had gifted us women from the time we took birth earth-side. Read this article to learn what feminine embodiment really is and what it looks like in our love and work life.
5 signs you are embodying your feminine essence in your love life, an article for the woman who wants to learn the art of feminine embodiment in love.
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Contrary to a very popular belief system, our femininity goes far beyond our ‘feminine’ dresses, colours, appearances. It has everything to do with our energy of receptivity, sensitivity, sensuality, vulnerability and more.
Our feminine embodiment is the portal to our power. Power that’s rooted in our worthiness, embodied boundaries & embodied presence.
A woman connected to her feminine essence is (energetically) soft on the outside and strong on the inside. In the space of her love life, she brings her whole (healed) self and lets the man/men her witness her in her radiant femininity.
Embodying your feminine essence in your love life
Today, in this article, I want to share with you 5 signs that convey if you’re embodying your feminine essence in your love life.
Sign 1 ~ You have mastered the feminine art of receiving.
You have little or no trouble asking for support from your man/ the men you’re seeing.
You have healed your relationship with your inner masculine. As a result of which, you don’t see asking for help as a sign of weakness.
You know you can do it all by yourself and yet you’re open to receiving more ease and pleasure in your life that men bring to your life.
The more you can receive, the more inspired these (empowered masculine) men want you to pour into you, to give to you, to please you.
Sign 2 ~ You are rooted in your feminine energy of worthiness.
You can joyfully receive from men without feeling the urge to return their efforts and gestures.
You know you are inherently worthy of all the gifts, all the good things that life has to offer you. And that the love, affection and admiration of men/your man is a tiny beautiful part of that gift bundle.
When men try to serve you with their acts of service, you joyfully receive those gestures and exude your warmth and gratitude in return. You don’t feel the pressure to match their efforts to even out the relationship.
This activates the polarity between your feminine energy and the masculine energy of empowered masculine men.
Sign 3 ~ You effortlessly practice the feminine value of surrender.
You effortlessly trust and surrender in the unknown. You’re deeply rooted in your feminine value of divine surrendering.
When you’re single & dating, you allow yourself to flow through and enjoy the process of getting to know a man without worrying about the outcome of that dating association.
When you see that (embodied masculine) man taking the lead, you place the same trust in him and follow his lead.
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When in a committed partnership, you trust your partner to lead your relationship in the right direction.
In both of these scenarios, you trust that your intuition will guide you if that value of trust and surrender is dishonoured.
Sign 4 ~ You regularly use your feminine gift of intuition to make decisions in your love life.
You are able to use your intuition to make decisions in matters of the heart. This is a sign of your heightened sensitivity to your inner knowings and deep trust in your Divine inner guidance.
When something doesn’t feel right, you trust that inner voice and don’t do it. Your intuitive wisdom guides you in your day to day life to make the right decisions around saying yes to dates, saying yes to invitations, following the lead of a man/ men you’re dating and so on.
Sign 5 ~ You show up in your love life in both your feminine radiance & power.
You’re not afraid of expressing your vulnerability in your intimate interactions with men because it is supported by your embodied boundaries.
You know when to open your heart to men and how to protect yourself from getting hurt.
Your energy is open and inviting and guarded by your (highly empowered) energetic boundaries that lets men know that you are a no-nonsense woman indeed.
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If you would like the support of a self-paced resource to learn the art of feminine embodiment in love, you may explore my powerful book Becoming a Goddess in love.
Consisting of 9 parts, this ebook will show you how to reclaim your feminine essence, radiance & power and use it all to revolutionise your love life. It will teach you the powerful skills of feminine embodiment in love and show you how to apply the laws of feminine-masculine polarity in your love life.
Here’s where you can learn more about its powerful contents.
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Did you know that practising vulnerability in your love life is a skill, one that can be cultivated if you desire an emotionally rich romantic relationship in your life? Read this article where I share with you more on how you can add this skill in your emotional intelligence toolkit.
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