How do you measure your self-worth?

January 21, 2022

How do you measure your self-worth? An article for the woman who wants to reconnect with the unconditionality of her self-worth.


How do you measure your self-worth?

Do you measure it through your job?

Or do you measure it through the amount of money you earn?

Or is there another external, transient factor that has got you attaching your inherent worth to it?

If you’re here reading this, chances are you have chosen to be a worldly being. And in that capacity, we obviously need most of the above mentioned forms of rewards to sustain life in the most thriving manner. 

The problem arises when any of these become the source of self-worth for us. Even worse if these external sources run dry/ empty of their supply of worth for us.

We losing a job is a possibility. The incoming flow of wealth getting disrupted is another scenario. The rapidly changing landscape of social relationships can cost us some of ours too.

The questions to reflect upon are, 

What happens to your life when any/all of these are gone? 

What happens to your sense of inner balance if one or more of these sources of your worthiness go missing? 

As you read the next few lines, take a moment to close your eyes and strip away everything you attach your worth to. Your job, your career, your money, your romantic/ social connections, everything outside of you. 

Who are you now? 

How does it feel to be with yourself? 

Do you like the woman you are? 

Can you wrap your arms around her and still tell her that you love and accept her, from the core of your heart? 

How we feel within ourselves, with this version of us sans all our external, transient sources of worth- is all that matters. 

If that relationship feels whole and complete, we celebrate it, we deepen it further. If it doesn’t, we give ourselves the permission to turn within and ask, “Why is it that I don’t feel worthy by just being me?

Our relationship with our worthiness is always an inside job, dear one. Our worth is innate, it’s ever-present, it is precious. 

We don’t need to downgrade it by measuring it up through a transient title, the dollar we earn, the status our romantic relationships hold. 


Our self-worth is like a naturally flowing waterfall that we are born with an exclusive access to. It is available with an unlimited source of water, ever present for us. 

We live under that waterfall, soaking ourselves with its water on harsh hot days any and every time we want. We don’t have to give, to do, to prove anything to keep that waterfall of self-worth flowing forever. 

When we grow up/live in an environment where our self-worth gets compared and measured- in form of our looks, our grades, our size, our skin color, our voice, our achievements, etc., we slowly start disconnecting from this eternal truth. 

We start depending on external validation to feel worthy.

We start relying upon our community, our partner/the men in our dating circle to bring buckets of water to cool off the heat of unworthiness. Totally forgetting that we live under our own waterfall of self worth. And that we don’t need anyone else’s buckets of validation to feel worthy. 

When you begin your journey of feminine embodiment, you learn to identify and liberate this dependency on all external sources of your self-worth and connect with your enough-ness effortlessly. 

You start showing up in your love life anchored in this truth- no longer feeling the urge to give, to provide, to match the love, affection and attention you receive from your man/ the men you’re seeing.

As a result, you are able to receive all of that love, the compliments, the offerings like a Goddess exuding her warmth and gratitude without clinging onto any of those gifts. 

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Similarly in areas of your leadership & business, you can show up with as much integrity towards yourself as you hold for the job you’re set out to complete. Thus living your life in connection with this enough-ness, under this waterfall of your innate self-worth once again. 

Not only are you able to release the need to chase a man for trickles of validation but also are you able to let go of the urge to people-please just so they can see your worth in your work..and may be even reward you for that.

That is you embodying your feminine essence in its most natural, primal form.

This energy is what creates the magic for you.

When you can sit across the table and look into the eyes of the person you’re negotiating with, you are telling them via more than just words that you are here for more and you are not willing to settle for anything lesser.

This applies just as much as to your work front as much as it does to your preferences/standards in dating/relationships.

It is far more powerful than any negotiation tactic you’ll ever learn. Because this energy with which you approach your negotiations in life and relationships is oozing with your sincerity, your authenticity of your deservingness.

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Our feminine essence, the one we were inherently born with, is replete with our worthiness, our enough-ness. 

When we are connected with this essence, we don’t need to measure our self-worth with anything outside of us. We understand that it just is.

We believe we are worthy simply because we exist. 

If you’re looking for a self-paced resource to reconnect with your feminine energy of worthiness, I invite you to explore Rise with the Feminine, my 7-step feminine energy activation program.

This program will help you anchor in your inner enough-ness and show you how to live, love + lead from your feminine heart and power. 

In step 3 of this offering, I teach you how to restore your connection with your innate self-worth. In this module, you will learn:

~ what is the true meaning of our self-worth.

~ what disconnects us from our innate worthiness.

~ how our self-worth lies at the core of our feminine embodiment.

~ what happens when we show up in our individual life, our love life and our work life anchored in our self-worth.

~ a powerful somatic practice to reconnect with your inherent self-worth.

Here’s where you can learn more about this deeply potent offering.

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    Navdeep Kalra

    Hi beauty,

    Welcome! I am Navdeep Kalra, a feminine embodiment coach, writer & meditation teacher.

    My zone of genius lies in helping sensitive, high-achieving women reconnect with their feminine essence & call in their heart’s deepest (and wildest) desires in life, love, business & money with utmost ease & pleasure.

    A previously hustle-oriented, disconnected, dis-embodied woman, through a long series of divinely orchestrated events, I discovered my way to the deeply fulfilling way of living, loving and working by returning home to my feminine essence.

    And now, it is one of my life’s deepest joys to share this life-giving wisdom with women around the world.

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