Balancing your feminine and masculine energy in love

January 20, 2022

Balancing your feminine and masculine energy in love, an article for the woman who wants to restore the feminine-masculine polarity in her romantic life.

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Let’s look at this little conversation taking place between your inner feminine and masculine energy before an evening date.

Your Inner Feminine (IF): I had such a fruitful day at work today, thank you for leading the way for us.

Your Inner Masculine (IM): Of course, I am here for us always. So…are you ready for your date?

IF: Absolutely!

IM: Aw..I’m so excited for you!

IF: And me, I am so grateful for you! Thank you for driving us till here!

IM: Anything for your beauty! Oh..here comes your date. It’s time for me to go now. You shine your light!

So as you just witnessed here our masculine energy is our action oriented energy- the one that’s about leading, achieving, conquering, making things happen. In short, it’s our ‘doing’ energy.

And our feminine is our feeling oriented energy- the one that’s about surrendering, receiving, responding, being empathetic, staying connected to your sensations. In short, it’s our ‘being’ energy.

Now when we’re on our dates or in presence of our romantic partner, the key to building polarity in our interactions/ relationship is knowing when and how to melt our masculine energetic shield and simply be, simply relax in our feminine energy.

The important question here is- if we have both our feminine and masculine energy inherent in us, then why does the above not come to us instinctively?

Why do we struggle to relax in our feminine energy when we are around an already masculine energy man? Especially since we organically identify on the more feminine end of nature’s energy spectrum.

Let’s look at these two powerful reasons why:

Reason 1: Our hyper-masculine conditioning

We are doers by our conditioning. While living in this hyper- masculine world that values momentum, achievement and that hustle-oriented attitude more than anything else, we have been trained to believe in the importance of this masculine way of living life.

It is natural then, that we women too despite being abundantly endowed with our own feminine gifts, sign up to the masculine art of living. 

Like, going after what we want, working hard for our goals, trying to win at almost all walks of our life. No matter what the cost.

What no one tells us though is that this go-go, achievement oriented way of doing life, is not the way we were designed to do romantic relationships.

What no one teaches us is the art of our feminine embodiment in life and in love. What no one tells us about is the power of our innate feminine magnetism.

Unless it’s something we see role-modelled to us by the women in our homes, in our social circles, this art remains unknown to us. Until we reach a point where our masculine ways of loving & doing romantic relationships stop yielding any results!

As a result of which, we find ourselves

  • attracting the most disembodied masculine/ passive men,
  • repelling the high-value ones, 
  • repeatedly failing to have the love & commitment our heart truly yearns for.

It is then we start to wonder if there’s something wrong with us. That whether we are not worthy of love, drowning ourselves in a millions of doubts & fears about our enough-ness.

The truth all this while being- there is nothing wrong with us. There never was.

We didn’t learn in our schools the skills we needed to do life as a woman who is connected with her feminine essence and power.


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Our mentors didn’t necessarily train us to acknowledge & celebrate our powerful feminine gifts. We weren’t taught that in order to get equally successful in love, we need to do less & start being more (the core quality of our feminine essence).

And guess what, our inner masculine isn’t our foe. It’s a powerful energy after all. If it wasn’t for this action-oriented energy in us, we wouldn’t be able to even get out of the bed in the morning!

Of course, you need this energy to do what needs to be done in order to fulfil our aspirations, desires, goals and dreams. We all do, regardless of our energetic orientation.

However, this energy isn’t our best friend when it comes to our love life. Especially if we are dating or are already in a relationship with a man who is a high value, embodied masculine man.

Which brings me to the second reason as to why we struggle with balancing our feminine and masculine energy in our love life.

Reason 2. The lack of understanding about romantic polarity

If you have spoken to me or worked with me, you’d know I’m a science nerd. So let me explain this point to you via some powerful logic. 

We cannot force a magnet to be attracted to another piece of magnet. 

Simply because they are made up of the same energies.

But when we place it close to a metal, the force of attraction is so strong that it gets pulled towards the metal almost effortlessly.

Conclusion? 

  • Similar energies repel.
  • Opposite energies attract.

An embodied man already has a lot of masculine energy in him. He wants to expend this energy, he is always waiting for a chance to put this energy into use.

In the practical world, when he comes across a woman, an individual who is bringing that same energy in their interactions, this is what happens:

  • He feels repelled.
  • There is no space for him to use his masculine energy.
  • He wants to give to her, but she is not able to receive from him. And is only concerned about giving him back.
  • He desires to be the leader in the relationship but she wants to lead too. (POV: two people pulling the rope in opposite directions) 

He really wants to feel attracted to this woman who he finds absolutely gorgeous, but he cannot do anything about it!

Just as a magnet cannot force itself to be attracted to another magnet, no matter how beautiful magnet that is! 

Now imagine when he comes across a woman rooted in her sensual, soft, feeling feminine energy.

  • He offers, she receives.
  • She is happy to follow when he leads the way.
  • He chases her, she lets him. 

The attraction is inevitable.

He can’t help it, he can’t resist it.

Just how if a magnet doesn’t want to be attracted to the metal, it cannot help it.

It’s the powerful law of polarity in action.

journey deeper

I share about this phenomenon in my ebook Becoming a Goddess in love in so much depth because this knowledge is a life saver to romantic relationships, to your dating interactions and everything that has to do with attraction between two individuals who are of polar opposite energies- which in this case is you and your man/ your dates. If you’d like to learn how to use the laws of romantic polarity to turn your love life around, you can explore this powerful book here.

And if you’re desiring to learn the skills of feminine embodiment in love in an intimate support container, you’re welcome to work with me in my private coaching program, Goddess in love. This program has been curated for a woman who wants to attract her wildest desires in love using the skills of feminine embodiment. Here’s where you can learn more about this offering and explore the next steps.

related reading

Contrary to a very popular belief system, our femininity goes far beyond our ‘feminine’ dresses, colours, appearances. It has everything to do with our energy of receptivity, sensitivity, sensuality, vulnerability and more. Our feminine embodiment is the portal to our power. Power that’s rooted in our worthiness, embodied boundaries & embodied presence. A woman connected to her feminine essence is (energetically) soft on the outside and (energetically) strong on the outside. In the space of her love life, she brings her whole (healed) self and lets the man/men her witness her in her radiant femininity. Read this article to learn the 5 signs that convey if you’re embodying your feminine essence in your love life. 

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    Navdeep Kalra

    Hi beauty,


    Welcome! I am Navdeep Kalra, a feminine embodiment coach, writer & meditation teacher.

    My zone of genius lies in helping sensitive, high-achieving women reconnect with their feminine essence & call in their heart’s deepest (and wildest) desires in life, love, business & money with utmost ease & pleasure.

    A previously hustle-oriented, disconnected, dis-embodied woman, through a long series of divinely orchestrated events, I discovered my way to the deeply fulfilling way of living, loving and working by returning home to my feminine essence.

    And now, it is one of my life’s deepest joys to share this life-giving wisdom with women around the world.


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